You Do Not Need the Perfect Words.

Pay attention to changes in:

• —Energy
• —Communication
• —Behavior
• —Presence
• —Routine
• —Performance
• —Withdrawal

Do not assume that someone who is still functioning is doing well.

Suggested language:

• “How are you really doing?”
• “You have not seemed like yourself lately. What are you carrying?”
• “I do not need you to be okay. I just wanted to check in.”
• “I have been thinking about you. How is your headspace?”

Do Not Rush to Fix What Someone Has Finally Felt Safe Enough to Say.

• —Do not interrupt.
• —Do not compare.
• —Do not minimize.
• —Do not immediately preach.
• —Do not make it about yourself.
• —Do not force someone to disclose more than they are ready to share.

Suggested language:

• “Would you like me to listen, help you think through it or help you find support?”
• “What would feel supportive right now?”
• “Would it help if I stayed with you?”

A meaningful check-in should not disappear when the conversation ends.

• “When would it be helpful for me to check back?”
• “I am going to reach out again tomorrow.”
• “I remembered what you shared. How are you doing today?”